INFJ (MBTI Personality Type)

On Explaining the INFJ Door Slam

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by Andy Davis. I notice that many people either ask questions about the INFJ “door slam” or mistakenly attribute it to very different scenarios. Here’s my explanation of the ‘door-slam’ from an INFJ perspective: The INFJ ‘door slam’ is an entirely involuntary and subconscious process, leading to complete and irrevocable cessation of emotional connection to […]

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Introvert / Extrovert?

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I believe most schools of personality theory assume that core sense of self becomes ingrained by the ages of 4 or 5. That’d include the introversion/extroversion ‘nature’; which is probably complex shades of grey, rather than simple black and white. However, there are ‘nurture’ issues that can arise during life that could influence a more […]

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The INFJ Male and Sex

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My frequency of sexual connections has peaked and troughed at various stages in my life. Much of that variation has to do with maturity, emotional health, self-discovery… and times where I’ve been in monogamous relationships or have abstained from sex and relationships altogether. When I first read about INFJ traits, I found it hard to […]

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Advice If Your MBTI Results Vary

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There’s a “knack” to how you take online MBTI-based personality tests. Firstly, take time to identify how you’re actually COMFORTABLE behaving, rather than how specific circumstances or contexts dictate you must behave. There are frequently aspects in life that demand we use inferior (less natural) cognitive functions – in work, study or when we might […]

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Testing Accurately on MBTI

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As I understand it, MBTI personality assessment answers need to derived by understanding what we find most natural, easy and success-inducing. We have to answer test questions based upon what we’re most comfortable with. Not what we actually might have to, or choose to, do… Here’s my perception of it: I’m an INFJ. I used […]

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INFJ and Intimacy Break-Down

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INFJ, or so I’ve read, are particularly focused on achieving intimacy. That’s certainly true for me – in terms of emotional, intellectual and sexual intimacy. One thing I’ll note (as an INFJ male) is that I do have some historical cases where I’ve LOST intimacy with a partner. Whilst my outward demeanor remained warm and […]

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MBTI Function Loops

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Firstly, “loop” behaviors aren’t a feature of authentic MBTI theory – although they have become somewhat popular in derivative theory strands as an explanation for certain unhealthy cognitive manifestations. The essence of a “loop” is that an individual of any type is somehow influenced to suppress their auxiliary supportive function. In that case, the much […]

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MBTI – Mistypes in Denial

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How we “identify” ourselves is primarily the ego (sense of self) constructing the ‘persona’ (projected image of self). As such it’s formed and influenced by all manner of conscious and subconscious compulsions. Our self-identity appeases and comforts our insecurities. It’s shaped by our aspirations, whether realistic or not. Our fears and traumas influence it greatly. […]